Even spiritual leaders who should have grown spiritually fall into this trap. It seems that even though they understand it intellectually, it is difficult to actually overcome that illusion. Moreover, it is common for ordinary people to project their own image onto others and point out or criticize them, which is absurd. Even if it is extremely annoying, there may be a certain extent to which it is unavoidable.

In order to correctly perceive oneself and the other person as they are, it is necessary to first purify one's own state. However, if one's purification is not yet sufficient, or if one lives a life that is not connected to spirituality, they tend to project their own image onto others, and what they think is about the other person is actually about themselves. This is a common occurrence.

Even if one has knowledge of spirituality or has studied psychology, they may eventually realize that it is just self-projection. However, if not, it can be difficult to notice. They may point out the other person, thinking that it is about the other person, but in reality, it is about themselves, and the other person may have no or only a slight connection. However, the person who is projecting themselves believes that the issue is about the other person, so they cannot communicate.

In addition, there are almost certainly invisible guides (spiritual guides, spirit guides, guides of spiritual beings), even for those who do not study spirituality. These guides will talk to them in their minds. However, these voices are often about the person themselves. However, for people who do not study spirituality, they may mistake the voice of the guide in their minds as the voice of their own judgment, and they may think that the other person is the one being pointed out. In reality, the guide's words may be about the person themselves or about the other person, and the nuance can distinguish between the two. However, for those who are not familiar with spirituality or who do not study it, they cannot understand the nuance of what the guide said, and they simply interpret it as something that their own mind thought. As a result, they often misinterpret their own thoughts as being their own, and they think that the guide's words are also something that their own mind came up with. Then, the subject of that thought is often directed at the other person rather than themselves. They tend to point out the other person before understanding their own state. This often leads to a ridiculous situation where their own mind points out and criticizes the thoughts that are being projected onto the other person. For those who have been pointed out or criticized by someone who is projecting themselves, it is simply annoying. However, in situations where they cannot escape, such as with a boss at work or a teacher and student at school, this kind of criticism and pointing out due to self-projection often occurs, which is not only annoying but also can lead to mental illness.

As a fundamental principle of spirituality, there is a rule that one should not associate with immoral people. However, it is not always possible to avoid relationships, and there are times when one must interact with others due to social norms, departmental obligations, or work-related matters. It is important not to easily agree with those who project their own issues onto others. People who criticize through projection are often persistent and may relentlessly point out things like, "Why don't you understand something so simple?" It is necessary to firmly "reject" such projections, especially when the relationship is not close and understanding is lacking. In cases of projection, it is something that only the person experiencing it can understand, but the other person may approach them with an attitude of, "How can you not understand something so simple?" Therefore, it is best to avoid such people if possible, and if interaction is unavoidable, to minimize it.

In general society, it is difficult to expect improvement from troublesome people. However, even in the world of spirituality, it seems that this kind of projection will continue to some extent until one's own purification progresses, and the mind (thinking mind) and karma (causal) are purified, and at least a state of purity and tranquility is reached. In either case, it is unavoidable to have such troublesome people around, so it is a good idea to acquire some coping methods.

People who are interested in spirituality tend to overly agree with others' criticisms. Even if the criticism is simply a projection, it may seem very convincing. Therefore, even if it is something that is not really relevant, the person who is criticized may take it to heart and think, "Maybe..." Therefore, regardless of whether one studies spirituality or not, it is necessary to have the option of saying "no" to others' criticisms. There are quite a few people who are naive and easily influenced by others, who seriously consider and accept even criticisms that are completely irrelevant or based on unfounded fantasies. The person making the criticism is often confident, and the person who is criticized also takes it seriously, so this misunderstanding is perpetuated, leading to meaningless situations.

In short, it is about "rejecting and not accepting values imposed by others. For unfounded values that have already been accepted, simply let them go (without understanding, because there is no need to understand)."

In this world, there are many people who say things that sound impressive but are actually empty. Sometimes, controlling others with such words can lead to some success in business, but it won't last long, and people will gradually distance themselves from you. Actions based on unfounded values, whether in business or in relationships, cannot maintain long-term stability.

Therefore, if we consider the opposite of stable values, the foundation should be relationships where you don't project your own image onto others, but rather see and judge them as they are. This approach can lead to lasting relationships, whether in personal connections or in business.