- Diligently working hard
- Accepting
- Becoming twisted, aggressive, or self-defensive due to cognitive distortions
Abusing others seems to fall under the last category, becoming twisted.
Therefore, there may be two types of bullying.
1. Forcing others to agree with one's own biased perspective (imposing one's own biased view and hurting others, which is the original form of bullying).
2. Pointing out the truth to someone like the person in category 1 (that person gets hurt because of it, but it is not originally bullying).
The original form of bullying is to protect one's own self-esteem (ego) by belittling others (the bullied person) with one's own biased views, and then forcing the other person (the bullied person) to agree with that opinion. When a person (the bully) who does such things is pointed out the truth, their self-esteem (ego) is hurt, and they get hurt and claim to be bullied. However, that is not the original form of bullying, but rather the bully is suffering the consequences of their own actions. However, for some reason, the bullied person is often treated as the bad guy. Alternatively, these two types may be intertwined.
Now that I think about it, I understand why the people around me used to have a twisted attitude towards me. It turns out that they felt inferior to me. And they made arbitrary judgments and forced me to agree with them, often mocking me for trivial reasons. Now I understand that it was a childish behavior, but some of them have not stopped that childish behavior even as adults. It seems that some people have few opportunities to learn, and they continue the arbitrary behavior they had when they were children. That is the appearance of a person who does not learn. It is truly pathetic, mean, and pitiful to belittle others in order to protect one's own inferiority complex. When I was a child, I couldn't even imagine that such mean people existed in the world. So, I couldn't imagine or understand that there would be people who would try to belittle others with such distorted views. However, now I know that there are many people who are twisted and mean.
If that is the case, then what I should have done at that time was not to feel uncomfortable about those bullying acts, but simply to distance myself. As Buddhism also says, "Do not associate with immoral people."
At that time, perhaps if I had analyzed it from an Adlerian perspective, I would have understood the driving force behind such immature behavior.
In summary, it can be expressed as: "People may become aggressive when they feel inferior to others, and as a result, they try to defend themselves by imposing their own self-serving views on others. If it is only one's own view, it is just a matter of cognitive distortion, but the act of forcing the other person to agree with that distorted view is bullying." This is not all that bullying is, but it shows one aspect of it.